This article has been written to give general background information to Parents about Bullying. Additional information can be accessed from web site links shown below, particularly for children who are experiencing bullying. Cyprus Samaritans can help by listening in confidence to anyone affected directly or indirectly by Bullying (in Cyprus the law only allows us to take calls from people over 17).
No parent likes to think about their child being bullied or, even worse, being a bully but the fact is, more than half of all children are involved – either as a perpetrator, victim or witness. So, there’s a good chance you’ll have to deal with it at some point.
YOUR CHILD IS BEING BULLIED: DO’S AND DON’TS
Three key things to do…
"Listen without getting angry or upset," says Sandra Hiller, Area Manager at Parentline Plus. "Put your own feelings aside, sit down and actually listen to what your child is telling you – then show you have done so by ‘playing back’ to them what you hear. Ask your child: "How do you want me to take this forward?" rather than just taking over so they don’t feel excluded from deciding what to do or end up even more stressed/worried than they were already.
Don’t charge off demanding to see the head teacher, the bully or the bully’s parents. This is usually the very reaction children dread and, according to ChildLine’s counsellors, can cause bullying to get worse.
Reassure your child it’s not their fault. There’s still a stigma attached to bullying and some children feel they’ve brought it upon themselves. Remind them that many celebrities have been bullied -
I didn't know where to turn. Now I have a voice and I want to use it to tell kids who are being bullied that the fault is not with them. Be honest, don't be embarrassed, get help, and speak about it. Being bullied isn't about being weak and being a bully isn't about being strong.?
… And three things you shouldn’t…
"Never tell your child to hit or shout names back," says Sandra Hiller. "It simply doesn’t solve the problem and, if your child is under-
Never dismiss their experience: If your child has plucked up the courage to tell you about bullying, it’s crushing to be told to "sort it out yourself" or "it’s all part of growing up."
Don’t tell them to ignore it, warns Lyndall Horton-
*These videos from www.parentchannel.tv offer helpful advice from parents of children affected by bullying:
Look at some of the ways you can help your child to handle the situation, and what you can do to resolve things if your child is being bullied.
Look at some the signs to be aware of that will allow you to support your child if you think they are being bullied.
Take a look at some of the different types of bullying, including online ‘cyber-
Article by Michele O’Connor
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